As much as I wanted to do more projects to add to my daily tasks of data entry and blogging (blog hopping, link building, maintaining traffic and everything else to keep your blog alive), I know I can only do as much.
Because of that, the last weeks I was so stressed trying to keep up with my dropping blog traffic and looking for cheap ways to maintain it. Aside from that, I am also dipping my feet into new waters (will tell you about those soon. and yes it’s still online job).
I realized how toxic it would be to become a Virtual Assistant. I was so laxed that I would hit it off when opportunity comes. But when it came, I had to ask for somebody’s help and it didn’t go well on the client’s part. Maybe i’m not really cut out for that kind of job. Yes, I hate being stressed out. I’m already stressed out as it is.
When Yz was a little bit younger I can sit in front of the computer while she breastfed. But now she just can’t keep still so someone has to be always looking after her.
So much for my rants. The last 2 days I wasn’t as tensed and uptight as I used to be. I was able to finish my tasks on time (yes, on my time) and I didn’t spank nor shouted at Yzabella. Here’s what worked out for me:
- One of the reasons why I am so uptight is Yz’s schedule. Everyone gives me a snotty face as they comment on Yz’s sleeping habits (she used to sleep at 4 in the morning). There are many factors that moves Yz’s time so now I will be firm in maintaining her pattern. I will have to wake her up at 8 or 9 in the morning, so that means, I should be asleep before 2am so I have enough rest when she wakes up. Otherwise I should sleep earlier so when I wake up, she’s still sleeping.
- When she naps in the afternoon, which should be around 1pm that’s the time I can work, if she wakes up ahead of me in the morning. Meaning, when Yz’s awake I shouldn’t work so I will not be as crabby when she bugs me when I’m working on the computer or that when she plays with my stuff cuz she has grown tired with her toys.
- When her dad is working or sleeping (Mike is a working at home), we should be out of his sight so he won’t be disturbed. Meaning we should be out of the room during those times. In short, when Yz is awake, we should be downstairs (Dad’s room is on 3rd floor) and only come back for Yz’s nap or sleep time.
- Right about now, Yz and I are downstairs. I just had to keep her busy with her blocks or the TV so I can work. Why didn’t I do this before? Because we’re not the only people in the house. As this is the living room, the other peeps in here also wanted to stay down here. I don’t want to disturb their peace with my noisy blabbing or shouting and Yz’s TV watching.
This worked out for me the last few days. I don’t know how long I can keep this up, esp if the Granny wanted to bring Yzabella out. just please cover her mouth when she comments about yz’s sleeping habits. As if they have nothing to do with it. (It’s always the mother’s fault).
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wow sleep at 4 in the morning, then what time she wakes up?
her kid usually wakes after lunch.. if she sleeps for ten hours a day, she probably wakes up around 2 PM.
ten hours a day that’s great. I am sure I am not getting 10 hours sleep now. My dad says he is old now and sleep less.
yup. that’s how kids are. when we were 1 month old, we sleep 20 hours a day. one year old about 12 hours. now, we’re lucky to get 6 hours of undisturbed sleep.
My parents lets me sleep as long as I want cuz like your dad, my parents cannot sleep longer than 6 hours. that’s how it would be. ^^
right, peh! but now I make it a point to wake her up before 10am. wahaha!
whaha.. she has good sleep and you wake her up. Is she okay with that? she got cried and want continue sleep?
I will just turn on the TV or the laptop with her favorite shows and she wakes up happy. Of course I need to count the hours, as long as she sleep more than 9 hours then she’s good, won’t be as crabby during the day.
Then in the afternoon she’ll take a nap of about 3 hours to compensate for the lost sleep time. ^^
wow she do compensate her sleep hours, that’s great. Sometimes I see kids with dark eyes bag, not enough sleep.
I ma so happy for you and I hope you can do it for a longer time. Just be more patient with YZ and don’t be too hard on yourself. You also need to have a little life of your own.. so when YZ is sleeping, blog like no one else is reading nyahaha or you from time to time, nap with her.. it’s a good bonding activity for you and Yz..
thanks! I know you’ll be happy wahaha! carry na. kelangan may mangyare pang ganito para matuto ang lola mo. hehe! ^^
tama si peh. rest ka rin. save time for yourself. and keep up your schedule kasi by the sound of it, mukhang maganda naman for both you and yz. and mike na rin. sorry i haven’t been online. tinatapos ko yung layout ni ria and i have a couple of VA stints pa rin that came up.
yes it seems that we can no longer see the grouchy fedhz nyahaha…
ang dami mo raket kaye.. wag na muna pala ung pagawa ko ehek
wahaha! papayaman tayong lahat shempre para may maipakain sa mga chikiting. ^^ thanks guys… ay, girls pala. hihi!
so both of you work at home. ang galing naman nyan! what you are doing right now is good in terms of being with yz. ganyan din ginagawa ko with sam.. i spend time with her when she is awake and then sit in front of the pc when she is napping. and you should get enough rest too fedhz. i agree with pehpot and kaye. just be patient with yz and be kind to yourself too. hugs!
kurak.. ako din kahit nasa gitna ng pagsusulat pag lumapit na bunso ko at nagpakarga stop muna ako.. nag hirap kase pag nakalakhan tayo ng mga bata di ba.. kaya dapat lagi sila una.. mamaya nyan kaka blog magugulat ka na lang dalaga binata na anak mo haha
uu nga eh, swerte na sa house kame work. kaso yun nga, since wala kaming sariling house, sa kwarto kame stay. shempre nagkakaistorbohan sa gustong gawin sa buhay. ung isa gusto matulog, ung isa gusto maggitara, ung isa gusto mag workout, so ang ingay.
yun nga gusto ko nga lagi kasama si yz, pero gusto ko din sya bilhan ng mga bagay bagay. hihi. sige po, gud mommy na me. ^^
dont be too hard on yourself… i have been where you are to… with growing toddlers, they need more attention and time… i had to give up some online work to make sure i spend some quality time with my kiddo, especially now that we dont have a helper anymore…
i usually go online when he is napping or is already asleep at night…
Hi, mommy chris. Thanks! It’s just that I wanna do a lot a the same time. Nate-tense ako siguro kase feeling ko wala pa akong na-a-achieve like most moms I know.. like you.. ^^
chris good decision on spend quality time with family. We cannot make all money that we want.
What you, moms are doing is a very laudable task. Seldom can dads duplicate your skills and patience. But I guess you’re designed for mothering certainly. But despite that, you’re earning income on the side, even you’re at home keeping house. W@w$$$!!! Congrat$$$$..
Hello, JessQ! Thank you for your appreciation of us mommies. ^^ super! It gave me a little confidence. hehe!
I think mom sacrifies more than dad.
yes. But most dads think we don’t. hihi!
maybe should let them trade place for a day to be in mom’s job.
I don’t have any motherly advice for you sis cause I haven’t been in you shoes yet but like what the other fabulous moms that commented here said, don’t be too hard on yourself:)
You might become loca loca
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or losyangera diba.. hala ka mawawalan na nga gana sau si bf LOL
what is loca loca?
Loca loca is a local language for insane or crazy haha
hi pehpot, thanks for explain. hehe.. I learn new word now.. nobody want be loca loca
yup. actually that word is actually Spanish. ^^ Like the song by Ricky Martin, Living la vida Loca. am i right?
oh yeah the rick martin song,
Easy lang!! Kalma, kalma. Makaka-timing ka din ng okay na schedule that’ll work out for you and Yz. Ako din parang kelangan ko nanaman magayos na sched na okay sakin cos of my online activities esp now na may assignment na ko na 8hrs a day dapat and may deadline. Huhu! Nagpapanic na nga ako ngayon pa lang. 2nd day ko pa lang ha. Haha!
uu nga keri lang. ^^ so far mejo nakukuha ko na rin kumalma para di ako uptight. happy lahat dava? hihi! ^^
maybe you can ask your bf to help you out with YZ so you can work.
No, girl. The boyfriend earns more so he should be the one to work. ^^
you have the point, he earns more so cannot disturb him.
your working schedule will change once you start working full time.